Someday the Waves - Dear Coke Talk: On bedtime death panic. - Dear Coke Talk: On bedtime death panic.

dearcoketalk:

Dear Coquette,

I’ve just recently come to the realization of my own mortality. In the time before I fall asleep, it absolutely terrifies me thinking not about how it will end, but that it ends, period. I know you’ve given this sort of advice before, but I can’t even get past this fear to…

I really love her response to this. I adore Coke Talk and think she is genius but some of her responses have often triggered my anxiety about death because she has a philosophy about living because you’re going to die. And while I appreciate that advice extremely, this person’s question to her is something that I’ve always wanted to submit but am always terrified of the response. But her response here is essentially how I’ve gotten over my own “bed time anxiety/panic attacks.” I sleep next to my boyfriend every night so I no longer get them because he distracts me, but when I used to be alone in my bed I’d furiously find something to do in order to distract myself, like play solitaire on my ipod or sudoku, anything that kept my brain busy. It’s taken me years (like, since I was 9) to get over that shit. My best friend Nick helped me a lot to get over this anxiety. I still get panic attacks, usually when I’m alone and in really confined spaces (especially on the train, and I got a really bad one on the plane from Italy to Germany in the summer). But they usually subside and I ignore them. That’s basically the only solution: ignore them and move on. :>

This is actually the reason why I sleep with the TV on sometimes when I’m alone. I don’t just get them at night though, but I get them less and less during the day and am able to control them better.